Silence of the Lamb

Madonna was once quoted saying that in order for people to get what they want, they should ask for it.

She's right.

In our lives, most of us tend to shy off in asking even the simplest of requests, thinking that maybe it's too petty for anyone to be bothered with.  If it's a heavy chore or work to be done, we always decide to do it ourselves, since honey's watching the games, looking all cozy on the couch as if not wanting to be disturbed.  So we don't.  We do everything despite having our hands full; we give everything despite of having nothing more to give; and yet we say nothing.   And then one day you'll begin to realize that honey's not being much of a help around the house.  The lawn needs some mowing, someone has to do the dishes, and the baby needs to be fed–all before the in-laws arrive within an hour.

Then we just explode…complaining about not getting help from our partner, about people not being insensitive to our need for rest, about being mistreated and, worst, under appreciated.  All because we decided to prioritize someone's comfort first and putting the things that needs to be done last.  At your expense.

In fact, Madonna echoes one important lesson the Bible imparts: Ask and it shall be given. 

So what's a woman to do?  Get honey (or at least someone capable in the house) to move his behind while you move yours, too.  Relationships mean sharing, and sharing means equal love and labor. 

However, if honey decides not to hear you and keep his behind plastered in the couch after you asked, take a deep breath, behold the loveliness of your rose garden through the kitchen window, and recite the other important lesson the Bible imparts, which immediately follows the first: Seek and ye shall find.